Monday, February 12, 2018

Advice for New Parents with Disabilities

By: Guest Blogger, Ashley Taylor,

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Parenting is difficult at the best of times, and having a disability is certainly not going to make our journey as parents easier. You’re going to have to prepare yourself and your home for this new chapter in your life. Things will be hard. However, this is truly one of the most rewarding aspects of life, especially when armed with good information.

Adaptive Equipment Will Help

Every disability is different. Because of this, every individual will require different adaptive equipment to assist them. Whether it’s prosthetics, a cane, a rocker knife, or a mobility scooter, your equipment to make your life easier is also going to make raising a child easier. A button hooker may help you dress, but it will also help you dress your little one. You will also find new ways to use the items you have at home to help you take care of your baby.

These will probably be unique to your experience and will completely depend on how your disability affects you and what extra assistance you need. Unfortunately, there are very few guides for parents with disabilities, so it will largely be trial and error.

Teach Your Children Good Judgment

Depending on your disability, you may be more physically limited than other parents. You may have to teach your child how to be more independent than others at an early age. It may be a good idea to help your little one understand as early as possible that they may need to rely on themselves for the physical aspects of their life. You may not be there to catch them when they fall, so they will need to be able to make good decisions. They will need to determine if the course of action they set themselves on will lead to consequences they can treat themselves. Equipping them with a sense of responsibility is one of many ways you can help guide your child.

Prepare to Get Help

There is only so much a child can do on their own and your disability may limit your physical capacity. That is why it’s important to have a strong network of support as, even though it may seem cliché, the adage that it takes a village to raise a child is an accurate one. Share the load with your partner or with any family who has the time and capability to assist you. Ask a friend over to help watch your baby, so you can cook ahead for the week, catch up on laundry, or even just to give you time to take a nap. If you need further assistance, if you are a single parent, it’s good to familiarize yourself, in advance, with the various organizations that are there to relieve you.

Take Care of Yourself

Things will be stressful. Most likely, there is no getting around that. For various reasons, you may feel guilty for taking any time to yourself to practice self-care. Put every negative feeling and every excuse you use to put-off taking care of yourself aside. You need to take care of yourself. As a parent, this is not an option but a mandate. It may take time to find out exactly what things help you relax the best, but the process of finding out can be beneficial. If you’re at a loss as to where to begin, there are plenty of lists online that can give you some idea of how to engage in your needed self-care.

This, hopefully, will be a wonderful part of your life. You will make mistakes. You will struggle. Every parent, able-bodied or with a disability, does. That is part of life, and part of growing, both as a parent and an individual. But one of the best, most rewarding aspects of parenthood is that you will never be alone, and will be treading your path with those around you.

By: Ashley Taylor

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